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Suggested Books For Parents to Read

The following is a collection of some suggested reading materials for parents and families affected by separation and divorce.

Children Learn What They Live
By Dorothy Law Nolte and Rachel Harris
Workman Publishing, New York
ISBN No. 0-76111-0919-6

This book is about how parents and the environment that parents create for their children shapes the outcome of their children.   The book also contains the classic poem written by the author called "Children Learn What They Live".  If parents raise their children in an environment of hostility, anger and revenge then their children will grow up into angry and selfish adults.  A good book to make parents of divorce and separation think about what it is they are doing to their children when they fail to act in the best interest of their children.

For the Sake of the Children
by the Joint Senate and House of Commons Committee on
Custody and Access
Canadian Government Services Publishing, Ottawa, Canada K1A 0S9

A must read for all parents and families.  Contains the latest recommendation of the Canadian Government based on extensive consultations from coast to coast involving all sectors of Canadian Society.  The list of recommendations in this publication are a must to include in court documents in custody and access matters.

For a list of the recommendations only from the Joint Committee report  click here

Putting Children First: A Guide for Parents Breaking Up
by Hanna McDonough and Christina Bartha

University of Toronto Press

ISBN No. 0-8020-8064-2

This book describes a child-centered approach for separated and divorcing parents who want to minimize the damage done to children during and after the break-up. It offers essential information and advice on renegotiating the practical and emotional aspects of the parent-child relationship.

Hanna McDonough and Christina Bartha are leading clinicians in their field and use their extensive experience in counselling families to provide a step-by-step guide to the emotional work parents must do to make their divorce manageable for themselves and their children. They also highlight the relevant research findings concerning the effects of divorce on families. Recent studies show that it is not only the presence of conflict that determines the adjustment of children to their parents' divorce, but the way in which parents involve their children in their conflict with each other.

Mom's House, Dad's House
by Isolina Ricci, Ph. D.
Simon & Shuster Publishing
ISBN No. 0-684-83078-7

Mom's House, Dad's House is a wonderful resource for parents before and after separation, providing guidance about how to maintain their roles as parents so as to minimize the effect of the separation on their children.  This book gives parents a road map of the problems which can arise, how to  resolve them, and, indeed, how to avoid them.

Using Your Values to Raise Your Child to be an
Adult You Admire

by Harriet Heath, Ph. D.
Publisher: Parenting Press Inc., Seattle, Washington
ISBN No. 1-884734-36-7

Good information for parents about shaping the values of their children.  For children to learn to have good values their parents must set an example.  Separating and divorcing parents would do well to learn about how to teaching their children good values for these will help their children tremendously later in life.

 

Putting Kids First
by Michael L. Oddenino, Attorney
Publisher: Family Connections Publishing, Salt Lake City, Utah
ISBN No. 1-884862-03-9

Putting Kids First provides divorced and separated parents with the tools and insight to deal with the challenging demands of post divorce parenting.  Acting on the principles set down in this book will help children now and provide a better future for all.

 

Fathers, Children, Family & Community
by Guy Thisdelle
Publisher: Commoners' Publishing, Ottawa, Canada
ISBN No. 0-88970-105-9

This handbook presents information from a variety of credible sources to assist parents in achieving shared parenting.  It uses a multi-disciplinary approach to describe the background of needs, as well as to provide front line workers with tools for practical solutions.  Also contains some suggested shared parenting agreements.

 

Families Apart - Ten Keys to Successful Co-Parenting
by Melinda BlauGuy
Publisher: Berkley Publishing Group, New York, New York
ISBN No. 0-399-13895-1

This book offers a new approach to co-parenting, with ten solid principles for maintaining communication, caring, and strong family relationships.  Based on interviews with divorced parents, family therapists, and psychologists, Families Apart delivers workable solutions that ensure a lifelong loving bond - one that will continue to give both parents an important role in their children's lives for the years to come.

Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce
by M. Gary Neuman, L.M.H.C.
Times Books - Random House Publishing, Toronto, Canada
ISBN No. 0-8129-2902-0

This book will greatly help fathers and mothers assist their children through the difficult time of separation and divorce.  The children's voices come through clearly in the wonderful artwork and children's comments in the text and serve to help everyone understand divorce from a child's perspective.  This is a key to helping children through the divorce process.

 

Dear Mom and Dad
by Gillian Rothchild
Pocket Books, Simon & Shuster Publishers, Toronto, Canada
ISBN No. 0-671-02788-3

During the trauma of divorce, your own needs and concerns can be frighteningly complex.  Understanding and meeting the needs of your children can seem an almost insurmountable challenge.  At long last, real help is at hand in the clearest most concise guide ever to help children at the difficult time of divorce.  Join counselor and divorced parent, Gillian Rothchild as she tackles some of the issues in this book.

Ashes to Ashes - Families to Dust
by Dean Tong
Family Rights Press, Tampa, Florida
ISBN No. 0-9654833-8-X

A powerful book from renowned author, Dean Tong, about the damage being done to children, families and our whole community as the result of false sexual abuse allegations made by parents trying to alienate children from another parent.

 

From Courtship to Courtroom
by Jed Abraham
Bloch Publishing Company, New York, New York
ISBN No. 0-8197-0692-2 paperback
ISBN No. 0-8197-0694-9 hardbound

This book describes how families are adversely affected by the adversarial process of separation and divorce.  It give insight into how the destructive process begins and describes the various stages that a family will go through as it is being destroyed.

 

Updated Dec, 2000