Family Conflict Resolution Services

Separation and divorce from a child's perspective

 

The following is a collection of various materials which relate to divorce, separation and the family courts from a  child's perspective.  This information is intended to help others to better understand how separation, divorce and the family courts adversely affect children. In the vast majority of cases, children want and need both of their parents and often will never forgive a parent who tries to interfere with their relationship with that other parent.  It is hoped that readers will find this information enlightening.

 

One of the priorities of Family Conflict Resolution Services through the programs it develops is to ensure that Children of divorce are given a voice and that their best interests during the process of separation and divorce are truly being served.  We believe that our key program "The Family Assistance and Parent Support Program" and the concepts and procedures it embraces, offers protection for the best interest of children in way that no other program anywhere can offer.

 

My message to separating parents

(February 2001) An article by Cecilie Finkelstein, a woman who was abducted by her father when she was four years of age and alienated from her mother for over 14 years.  Only when she was an adult did she come to understand the terrible wrong done as a result of parental alienation.
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Letter from Ashlee White to Prime Minister Jean Chretien
A letter from Ashlee White, the 14-year-old daughter of a father who committed suicide in British Columbia Canada to the Prime Minister of Canada.
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Letter to a Calgary judge from an angry 14-year-old boy
Jan 2001 - This is a letter from Clayton Giles a young boy from Alberta who went on a hunger strike and put up his own website in January of 2001 to protest how his mother attempted to alienate him from his father when he was young and how the court system failed to protect him from his mother's abuse.  His website at http://www.legalkids.com captured the attention of people from all over the world.  His website received over 18,000 visitors in the first week alone.

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A boy with a gun
This a a picture drawn by an angry young boy about age 11 whose parents were going through a separation and divorce.   He was very angry with his mother who alienating him from his father.  5 years later a hand gun was seized by the police in the boy's bedroom at his mother's home.

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A boy's rage against a women's shelter
A picture drawn by an angry young boy about age 11 regarding his feelings about the women's shelter in his community.  The shelter was abused by the mother as a tool to help her alienate the child from his father. This boy reported being abused by his mother while at the women's shelter.

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Testimony from a victim of parental alienation and abduction
(May 2001) A second article by Cecilie Finkelstein regarding her experience as a child victim of parental alienation.

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Letter from 16-year-old child of divorce
A letter from a 16 year-old-girl to the Member of Provincial Parliament in the community of Hamilton, Ontario, where she lives.

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Don't ignore us say children of divorce
A newspaper article outlining the results of research into what children of divorce are saying about divorce and separation.

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Among millions of voices on the net Arthur's rings out
A story of a young abused boy and his younger sister, Megan as reported by a major North American Newspaper.

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Mother, I remember what you did
A very powerful letter written by a girl when she turned 18 years of age.  This girl was taken away from her father by her mother to a community 1000 miles away and the mother attempted to alienate the child.  To this day the girl remembers and has told her mother she will never forgive her until she admits her lies and deceptions.  This one act by one parent to separate the child from the other parent caused to child to totally separate herself from her mother who tried to alienate her when she was little.
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I am your child
A letter written by a woman who had experienced separation from her father back in 1969 when she was six years of age.  The woman says how important it is for parents to fight for the right to see their children and that children someone cannot express how much they really want to see both of their parents.  This article has been circulated widely for many years.
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